In life there are those who love to run away from taking action, initiative or having to make a tough decision or choice by using the erroneous excuse, “If it is meant to be then it will happen”, or, “If it was meant to be it shall come to pass”. I beg to differ. If it is meant to be, you have to play a role. You have a part to play in the matter. You do. Infact, your mindset should be: ‘if it is meant to be then it is up to me’, since in truth, to some degree the outcome shall depend predominantly on the role you played, your initiative, especially whether you did something or nothing. Either way, your personal initiative is paramount to the outcome. Not fate’s role; not fate. If anything fate has but a minor role to play as we shall see later on.
This article touches on such who love to avoid facing issues and matters as they should. Especially tough choices and decisions. We shall highlight on this tendancy to opt to leave affairs to ‘fate’ to iron out. Keep in mind our focal group is those who love this unnecessary excuse; using that ‘fate’ slogan. ‘Fate’ being their favorite calling card. A calling card I feel is often misappropriately initiated.
Let us now proceed to delve into it together, hoping to shed light on the matter and eventually expose the fallacy therein. In the end, we hope to prove to them that their use of the slogan is to abscond duty on their part; specifically the duty of having to take personal initiative to engage self hands on in the matter or unfolding affair, as is required and expected of them by the matter at hand, contrary to their insinuated notion that the matter is beyond them hence their relegation of it to ‘fate’.The final outcome hopefully being to awaken them to open their eyes to their erroneously imposed myopia of delegation of personal initiative to ‘fate’ whereas the matter calls upon one’s personal input and initiative.
When it comes to some matters and affairs, some people are fond of delegating all personal initiative and person input to ‘fate’. They fail to realise that there are matters which, regardless of the assumed role ascribed to fate to play, to some extend one’s personal input and initiative is necessary. Fate does, and shall indeed play its part eventually, but, the outcome to some degree will depend on the initiative and input of the participant or concerned party or parties. Personal input or lack of it therein, has a direct influence on fate; whether intentionally, unintentionally, passively or actively .
You cannot fight fate but you can influence it. Just as actions have consequences, inaction does so too. Every choice has a consequence that will eventually shape the outcome of your fate. It is therefore unwise to settle for inactivity in affairs touching on your life at a personal level, opting to delegate the role to fate. If it is meant to be then it is up to you; whether directly or indirectly, partially or fully. The bottom line being; there is always a part for you to play, to some degree. You always have a role. You will never lack a role, and ‘inactivity’ is not one of them.Fate cannot and will never work alone. In fact it has never done so.
Passivity, hence, is not a role. Ancient people now long gone played their roles to determine their eventuality. They governed their actions and that influenced the eventual results they received.
Posterity shall have to play individual roles too to determine their fate. The future shall be no different just as the past was not either. Things do not merely happen, regardless of how much some people attribute it to fate. There was an active role an individual or individuals played for their ‘fate’ to eventially turn out as it did; unbeknownst to the party or parties involved.
You cannot simply buy a farm then go ahead to claim ‘if it is meant to be I shall have a bumper harvest’. It is not practical or logical, leave alone prudent in any way. You must play a role whether directly or indirectly to justify the validation and assertion of the ‘delegated-to-fate’ assumption.
Fate does not operate under total absolution of the matter at hand. Nothing should be wholly delegated to fate; there should be partial or wholehearted engagement. Disengagement though is also an option, with consequences. Play a part before waiting for fate’s verdict.Failure to do so and the matter may take a nose dive, only for the party concerned to fallaciously explain it as ‘it wasn’t meant to be'(it was fated so).
What the party may not be aware of is the fact that the conclusion may have been erroniously arrived at simply due to the fact that they predetermined the outcome of the assumed ‘fate’. Their undoing in real sense lies in their earlier ‘hands-off’ approach. Nothing to do with fate. Their relegation of the whole affair to the ‘fate mentality’ to make a decide for them is their indoing. Consequently, they are left merely to accept the verdict of their choice. A verdict which thought they think has been determined by fate, was actually orchestrated by their inactivity and lack of taking initiative.They fail to realize that the negative outcome was brought about by them, specifically by their inaction. It had nothing to do with fate.
Simply put, had they played a minor role in any way, whether directly or indirectly, chances are the outcome would have been different. Hence it is incredulous to delegate matters to fate, especially if it involves two people. It is as bizarre as desiring to eat fries and even having the resources to make it happen but opting to take no initiative, rather claiming ‘today if I am meant to eat fries someone shall knock at my door with a plate full of fries. This being in line with their mentality of ‘f it is meant to be it shall be’.
Eventually, when the day ends without any knock with a plate of fries, the fellow concludes that ‘I wasn’t meant to have fries today!”See how ludicrous delegation of initiative to fate is concerning some affairs that require one’s engagement?My advice: when it comes to some matters in life, your personal initiative is of paramount significance to the eventual outcome.
Fate does not take absolute charge and control, rather works with you to shape the eventual outcome…whether positive or negative. If you have played your part and matters turn out a certain way, then, and only then should you confidently declare it was fated so.
On the other hand, if you previously delegated all initiave and input on your part concerning a matter and left it to ‘fate’ to decide, then, whether it turns out for or against you, claim not ‘it was fated to be’ or ‘it wasn’t fated to be’. That would be a fallacy and self delusion since whether meant to be or not, your input and initiative was required, whether directly or indirectly, partially or fully. Hence your lack of participation ‘fated’ your eventual ‘fate’, and ‘fate’ had nothing to do with the eventual outcome.
By now you must have realized that the message simply is that the outcome of affairs is simply determined by the consequence of either your inaction or action relative to the outcome anticipated in any matter, rather than a validation of our suspected outcome by fate!
Now, let us use a simple but practical analogy to lay this matter to rest. Follow through…
Say you recently purchased a mobile phone. Days later you misplace it in your own house. In a specific room to be exact. You do not bother to look for it regardless of the fact that you can find it. Instead you opt to conclude the matter with the statement,” I was not meant to own it!” Is that prudent, let alone being logical, surely?
The above analogy is more or less the case with those who totally delegate matters to fate instead of playing their expected role in determining the eventually outcome of matters relative to fate.
It is high time we realize that often in life if it is meant to be then it is up to you, first of all, before forfeiting matters to fate. Only after playing your role by taking full initiative in regards to the matter at hand should one await the verdict of fate. The reality behind this approach is simply this-fate is the outcome of our actions or inaction.
Fate hence is not the dictator of outcomes of matters regardless of our input or its lack thereof. In reality, it is a manifestor of the consequence(s) of our actions or inactions in regards to the matter. Fate hence is a ‘consequence’ or ‘outcome’, not a ‘determinor’ or ‘justifier’. Shift your paradigm of fate, change how you
In conclusion; personal initiative and input is apriori to ascribing the outcome of any matter which you want to deem credible(the outcome that is), to fate! This is an appeal to those who may still be in disagreement thus far and hold to ascribing outcome(s) of matters solely to fate. Change. Take initiative. Play your part then leave the rest to fate. To be more specific-play your part before leaving the rest to fate!